a topic which many would just touch and go without really having a conclusion about this 'wide' topic.
one of my very good friend, got into this situation whereby someone had challenged him to fight. something went on like this. this particular guy, because of some words that my friend said agitated him and was very unhappy about him went to confront my friend(who had no intention to badmouth him, according to what he said) and wanted an answer from him. with the temper of my friend, he was also unhappy about that guy trying to pick on him.
so things went on and that guy called many down and have 'backed up' against the one of my friends, now check this out, some of the 'back up' are both that guy and my friend's friend, get the picture?
so things ended up with that guy started the fight with a blow and ended up both absorbed some punches. question here, is ther any ending to this problem? No, they both have no nswer and onl make things worse by engaging the fight.
time for some noble talks. i came across tis book " letters to my son" written by this great author, Kent Nerburn, and this is his opinion about fighting(well i hope i did not infright any copyrights, haha). "do not fall prey to their logic that says you are less then they if you choose to walk away rather than fight. ..... .... they choose to identify their manhood with the capacity to overcome that fear by fighting rather than by some higher good such as the ability to care for the weaker or the ability to express gentleness. suppose you were to fight them and win. would you be more of a man?"
well, it seems quite vague when i just quoted some phrases in the whole topic of fighting, i wish that all guys could read this book. it also talks about fight that you must fight, but for the sake of others' lives and the fight that will bring harm to families.
by engaging in fights, you have already lost, so the outcome if you win or lose doesn't matter much. it only helps to put stop to the issue.
well, not that i side that friend of mine, but what he does i do not think is fully wrong, in the sense that he did not challenge that guy for another round of punching and bashing.
i wouldn't deny the fact that i myself also get into some violence to subdude some of my friends, but i hope they all understand that it's purely having some entertainment, with no hard feelings attached. but when it comes to real thing, i hope i would not get myself into such adversary.
let's hope that this ga-ga would be over soon.
